Diligent Patience — The Heart of the Parent

Diligent Patience — The Heart of the Parent

Par­ent­ing and ‘answer­ing ques­tions’ should almost be con­sid­ered syn­ony­mous. Whether they’re sim­ple ques­tions like ‘What are we hav­ing for lunch?’ or more com­pli­cat­ed issues relat­ing to dra­ma or life deci­sions, the ques­tions come fast and furi­ous and don’t seem to let up. As par­ents, we won’t always answer those ques­tion cor­rect­ly. But like the bumpers on a bowl­ing lane, we can set up guards so that we answer even the tough­est ques­tions wise­ly. Those two guards are dili­gence and patience. The temp­ta­tion, espe­cial­ly after…

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There is Sacrifice in the Heart of the Parent

There is Sacrifice in the Heart of the Parent

The birth sto­ry of Jesus is filled with sac­ri­fi­cial obe­di­ence. Mary and Joseph’s will­ing­ness to give up their social stand­ing, com­mu­ni­ty and even their lives for their son speak to an incred­i­ble faith and sub­mis­sion to God, but also to the gen­uine love and sac­ri­fice to which every par­ent is called. Being a par­ent is not a ‘zero sum game’ — what we gain doesn’t equal what we give up. The reward is greater than the sac­ri­fice, but the sac­ri­fice is real and pro­found. If…

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The Heart of the Parent January Roundup: Tension

The Heart of the Parent January Roundup: Tension

Over the past mon­th, we’ve looked at five dif­fer­ent char­ac­ter­is­tics of the heart of a par­ent. Plac­ing them side by side high­lights an impor­tant truth: if we pur­sue God’s vision for par­ent­ing, it will like­ly result in an increas­ing ten­sion in our hearts. We’re often faced with oppo­site-seem­ing com­mands, and to bal­ance them cre­ates pres­sure. We con­sid­ered the Won­der we’re to have as par­ents — an amaze­ment at the call­ing God has given us and the joy of see­ing our chil­dren grow…

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Communicating with Children: What You Say Doesn’t Matter

Communicating with Children: What You Say Doesn’t Matter

Whether you’re par­ent­ing a two year-old or a 17 year-old, you know that com­mu­ni­ca­tion can be one of the hard­est parts of life. Some­times, no mat­ter how clear­ly or con­cise­ly you make a point — no mat­ter how elo­quent­ly you argue your posi­tion — the child just sim­ply does the oppo­site. “What will it take for you to lis­ten to me!?” you say, while pulling at your hair. “What do I need to say?!?” The truth is sim­ple: in regards to lis­ten­ing, it…

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The Heart of the Parent: Peace

The Heart of the Parent: Peace

The world today has a pret­ty set opin­ion regard­ing anx­i­ety: Expect it. There’s dan­ger all around, and as Moth­er Gothel sings in Tan­gled, “It’s a scary world out there!” Over the past 15 years, the world has changed in huge ways through the inter­net. Today, we have imme­di­ate access to more par­ent­ing tools, knowl­edge and wis­dom than ever before. But has that reduced our anx­i­ety? Absolute­ly not! It’s almost the oppo­site of what con­ven­tion­al wis­dom might say: the more help­ful infor­ma­tion and aid­ing tech­nolo­gies…

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